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Welcome to Kinsey Confidential - Your opportunity to ask questions and have them answered by experts in sexual health and behavior from the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. You can visit us online and submit your questions at kinseyconfidential.org. Updated every Monday. Primary Format : Sex Language : Unknown Also Listed as: City : Bloomington State/Province : IN User Tags: User Votes: RSS Feed Website People found this Podcast Searching for: View this Podcast on a Google Map. Podcast iTunes Link Text Only listing of Kinsey Confidential Podcasts Methings.com listings of Kinsey Confidential Podcasts If you like this podcast, you might also like:

Q&A: Do Nocturnal Emissions Cause Memory Loss? There are many myths about sexuality, masturbation, orgasms and ejaculation that simply aren't true. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Maximizing Sexual Pleasure Through Masturbation A key way to enhance your masturbation is to engage your mind. Try to think of something that you find sexy. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Penis Size, Problem With Erections Stress has been known to play a role in men and women's sexual function, including erections for men. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Vibrators In The Mail? Sex toys are very regularly sent in the US Mail. They can also be purchased in most states through adult bookstores and even, in some cases, local drug stores. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Boyfriend Wants To Try A Penis Cage There's no strict list of what is and isn't considered BDSM so if your boyfriend doesn't consider it BDSM, then it's not BDSM to him. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Vagina Tightens Up And I Can't Have Sex Some women, when they try to experience vaginal penetration, find that they feel unable to accept their partner's penis or fingers into their vagina. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A Intensity Of G Spot Orgasms Female ejaculation - which some people call "squirting" - happens as a result of G Spot stimulation or other types of sexual stimulation to some women. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A Can I Transmit Jock Itch During Sex? Jock itch is not normally considered a sexually transmissible infection, or STI. However, that doesn't mean that it can't be transmitted during sex. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A After Sex, Vagina Is Itchy & Puffy How do you know what's going on? Aside from checking in with a healthcare provider, you might try experimenting Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Get Aroused During Gynecological Exams As long as you act like a patient, rather than someone who is turning a gyn exam into a sexual event, then this arousal can probably be managed quite well. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Stamina Bothers My Sexual Partners Many women are quite satisfied with 5 or 10 minutes of vaginal intercourse, in spite of what is often portrayed in Hollywood movies and mainstream porn moves. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: HIV Positive & Having Trouble Achieving Orgasm A number of factors can influence men's orgasm and ejaculation, including certain prescription and over the counter medications, depression, stress and anxiety. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A Confused About Ex-Girlfriend's Sexual Orientation Maybe she feels that she truly is bisexual or lesbian but ultimately wants to be dating, in a relationship with or married to a man. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: 21 Years Old, Having Trouble Getting An Erection Often, young men have erection problems that are largely caused by performance anxiety. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Getting Over Shyness About Phone Sex By looking for new ways to communicate about sex, and to share sex together, you can deepen intimacy and have a more pleasurable sex life together. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: How Do I Find Out If My Girlfriend Is A Virgin Like Me? Scientific research has also demonstrated that people have different definitions about what it means to be a virgin. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A I Was A Virgin, But Didn't Bleed When I Had Sex There are several reasons why women may not notice any bleeding during their first sexual intercourse. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Boyfriend Likes It When I Have Sex With Other Men, I Don't These are common elements of what are called cuckoldry relationships, also called the "hot wife" phenomenon in which a woman either pretends to have sex with other men or actually has sex with other men and her male partner (such as a boyfriend or husband) is aroused as a result. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Questionnaire To Determine Sex Likes And Dislikes I didn't know of a comprehensive list of sex likes and dislikes, so I made my own list and posted it on my blog at: mysexprofessor.com. Although it doesn't list every possible thing one can do sexually, there are more than 60 behaviors listed so it's a good start. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Orgasm With My Vibrator, Not When Someone Else Touches Me Vibrator stimulation can be pretty intense and some women (and men) respond far more easily to it than hand, mouth, or intercourse stimulation. It may be that you have a higher threshold for stimulation, and vibration more easily brings you to orgasm. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Girlfriend Ejaculates When She Orgasms Some people like to keep their sheets and mattresses as free of fluids as possible. If that's true for you, try laying a towel on the bed before you have sex. Some people do this as a way to avoid getting various sexual fluids on their sheets either because they don't like the wet spot or they worry about trapping fluids in their mattress. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Feel Guilty About My Same-Sex Attractions The way people live their lives and the way they feel doesn't always line up into mutually exclusive boxes. Sometimes women, for example, can only imagine themselves partnering with, or being romantically involved with, men and yet they feel sexually attracted to some women. Does that make them lesbian? Straight? Bisexual? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Do Adult Men Have Wet Dreams? Some recent research suggests that some men and women may be prone to sexual behavior while they sleep - this has been called sexsomnia and is linked to unusual sleep cycles. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: What Can I Do To Help My Partner Orgasm During Intercourse? It is sometimes said that sex is like a dance in the way that it's often more fun and more pleasurable if two people are attuned to teach others' bodies. Sometimes the focus is on one person, dipping or being dipped, or turning around in circles. But the other person gets a turn to shine, too. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: How Can You Tell If You're Asexual? The term "asexuality" typically refers to organisms that reproduce without having sex. When it comes to human sexuality, however, researchers tend to use the term "asexual" to describe individuals who do not experience sexual attraction. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Do Women And Men Received Pleasure From Anal Penetration? In our recent survey, we found that 45% of women in some age groups had received anal sex, but that doesn't mean they all received pleasure from it. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Are There Adverse Effects To Frequent Masturbation? Masturbation is a common way for both men and women to enjoy the bodies they live in. Some people find that masturbation helps them to relax after a stressful day or to fall asleep at night. Masturbation can also help men and women to learn what they life, in terms of sexual touch and pace, so that they can share this information with a partner. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Pulling Out, Birth Control Pill, And Pregnancy Risk You're describing a situation in which a man and a woman are using two forms of birth control: the withdrawal method, which involves a man pulling his penis out of a woman's vagina before he ejaculates, and the birth control pill, which involves a woman taking a hormonal birth control pill every day. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Don't Get Wet And I Have Never Experienced Orgasm Sometimes medications - such as low-dose estrogen birth control pills - are thought to contribute to difficulties with vaginal lubrication. Other times, certain medical conditions may play a role. Depending on the situation, a healthcare provider may recommend the use of a vaginal moisturizer to help maintain a sense of vaginal wetness and comfort. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Don't Know What Pleases Guys And I Lack Confidence In Bed One reason I'd recommend asking your partner what he likes in terms of intercourse, oral sex or hand stimulation is because you're trying to please him -not some hypothetical man you're reading about in a book or magazine. That means that he's the only person who can tell you what he likes sexually. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Losing My Virginity To An Escort Before Finding A Girlfriend Research studies are quite clear that sex workers - particularly those that are working illegally, which most sex workers in the US are doing given laws that prohibit exchanging sex for money - tend to be more likely to have sexually transmissible infections (STI) such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, HIV, and herpes. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Experience Vaginal Tearing During Sex, Even With Lubricant You might try having sex in the woman on top position so that you can control the penetration. And before trying again, you might take several days - even as long as a week - off of sex to give your body time to heal. Perhaps your vaginal entrance has not had time to heal and so it keeps tearing again in the same place. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: If I Shave My Pubic Hair, Am I Less Likely To Get Pubic Lice? pubic lice are relatively uncommon and are not necessarily a reason to remove one's pubic hair. Many men and women enjoy having some amount of pubic hair. It can feel sensual to gently tug on one's own or a partner's pubic hair and many people find the presence of pubic hair to be quite sexy and erotic. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Clit Sensitivty During Sex, Mixture Between Pleasure And Pain The female clitoris is full of nerve endings and is consequently one of the most sensitive spots on a woman's body. Because of this enormous sensitivity, some women enjoy direct stimulation of their glans clitoris. For this same reason of sensitivity, however, some women do not enjoy direct stimulation as it may feel uncomfortable or even painful. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Anal Sex And Long Term Health Concerns As anal sex is considered a high risk sexual behavior for passing sexually transmissible infections (STI), you may want to use condoms during anal sex should you and your boyfriend ever decide to go from having a monogamous relationship to an open relationship. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Do Women Experience Nocturnal 'Erections' Similar To Men's? Researchers ultimately focused on studying changes in blood flow to women's genitals during sleep. They found that women experienced increased in blood flow to their genitals during REM sleep, just as men experience increases in blood flow to their penis, which contributes to their erections. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Dan Savage Interview, Part 5: Musical Theater Dan Savages talks about his love of musical theater and which role he would love to play on stage. And, which authors and blogs does he read? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Experience Pain During Sex. How Can I Learn To Relax? For many years, vaginismus was considered to be a condition that involved the muscles around the vagina going into involuntary spasms, thus preventing penetration. However, research has been mixed on this feature of the condition, with quite a few doctors and researchers being unable to find any evidence of actual muscle spasms. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Dan Savage Interview, Part 4: I Used To Hate Straight People Dan Savage talks about how his ideas on sexuality and relationships have evolved over the past 20 years of writing the Savage Love column. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Do Women Experience Nocturnal 'Erections' Similar To Men's? Researchers ultimately focused on studying changes in blood flow to women's genitals during sleep. They found that women experienced increased in blood flow to their genitals during REM sleep, just as men experience increases in blood flow to their penis, which contributes to their erections. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Side Effects From Penis Enlargement Pills When I was almost 16 I took pills that were supposed to make my penis get bigger. I took them for one month and my penis never got any bigger. But now I am 20 and my penis hasn't ever grown since I was about 17. Do you think that taking the pills caused me damage in some way? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Dan Savage Interview, Part 2: It Gets Better Project I felt this way after hearing about Billy Lucas' suicide and Justin Aberg's before him this summer in Minnesota. The reaction as a gay adult is always, "God, I wish I could have talked to that kid and just be able to tell him it gets better," but knowing you would never get permission; knowing you would never be invited to talk to these kids. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: The Missionary Position, What Am I Supposed To Be Doing? I was looking around on the internet and I saw a quote that read "Missionary is not an excuse to do nothing" and I feel like that's me. I don't know what to do while my boyfriend and I are having sex and I think I just lay there. What am I supposed to be doing? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Dan Savage Interview, Part 1: Don't Ask Don't Tell, Gay Marriage I was in the United Kingdom a few years ago and I read all the papers over there and watched the news and it occured to me that I'm not reading anything about the gay thing. It was just like, of course not, because they don't throw gay people out of the military and they have employment protections and they have civil partnerships. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Avoiding Boring Sex In Lesbian Relationships My girlfriend and I have been in a lesbian relationship for nine months. She had dated several girls before me and had sex with a few of them. She was my first. There was a lot of sex in the beginning of our relationship, but as it progressed the sex has dwindled to being once every two or three weeks. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Virginity And Overcoming Uncomfortable Sex My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of months. I'm a virgin, but he isn't, and I thought I was ready to sleep with him, but when we tried, as much as he tried to relax me and give me lots of foreplay, it was so uncomfortable that I actually tried to ignore what was happening down there. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Sexual Orientation Confusion I am a 19 year old male. I am mostly attracted to females physically and a little bit emotionally. However, I have a strong attraction to males sexually - but not emotionally. I am so confused, I don't know whether I'm straight, Bi, or gay. Please help me. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Embarassed About Buying Sex Toys, Sex Toy Parties I'd like to buy a vibrator, but I have no idea how to go about getting one. I'm too embarrassed to go into a store and pick one out, but I am also hesitant about buying one online, as I bought one off a website recently that totally didn't work for me and I don't want to waste more money! Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Why Would Someone Call Out Another Person's Name During Sex? As a sex educator and columnist, thousands of people have talked to me about their sex lives. And I have heard from many people who have accidentally called out someone's name during sex. In some cases, it was a total accident. They claimed that they weren't thinking of this other person and the name just slipped out. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Can Straight Men Be Curious About Gay Sex Without Being Gay? When I hear terms such as "gay curious" or "bi-curious", the people using them are often talking about wanting to explore sexually with other people - not just being curious in an academic or hypothetical way. Granted, some people might use the term without knowing this meaning and they may simply just want to know what it is that gay men do. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Death Grip During Masturbation - Will It Translate To Sex? Some men masturbate by rubbing against their bed or pillows and then find themselves in a similar situation in which sex with a partner feels very different. It can take time to learn to orgasm or ejaculate from sex with a partner. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Husband Tested Positive For Gonorrhea. Did He Cheat On Me? Some couples value monogamy and commit to only have sex with each other. Other couples decide to have some degree of an open relationship, which may allow for one or both of them to have sex with other people. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Don't Enjoy Touching My Husband Or Giving Him Oral Sex. Although most men and women in the US have tried oral sex, not everyone likes it and not everyone keeps doing it. If you and your husband don't like oral sex, then it probably makes it easier that you both feel the same way. It can be more difficult when one person likes oral sex a lot and the other person in the relationship doesn't like oral sex. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Decreased Libido and Vaginal Lubrication. Anything I Can Do? Some women experience vaginal dryness after taking low dose birth control pills. Also, it's common for women to feel more dry if they start having sex shortly after a warm shower or bath, if they're taking allergy medications such as antihistamines, or while they are breastfeeding. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: How Can I Increase The Volume Of My Semen And Make It Squirt? Because a man's pelvic muscles are linked to the power of his ejaculation, and his orgasms, it may be that pelvic floor muscle exercises, such as Kegel exercises, can help to improve the thrust of a man's ejaculate - to help him squirt more than drip. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Experience Vulva Pain Before And After Sex. What Can I Do? There are many different causes for pain during sex. Sometimes, women and their partners spend very little time in foreplay, not leaving the vagina enough time to lubricate naturally, which can be painful. If a woman has a male partner who has a large penis, or is she has a small vagina, the genital fit can be painful too. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Suffer From Delayed Ejaculation When I Have Sex It is common for men who experience delayed ejaculation to feel frustrated or anxious about sex. Unfortunately, anxiety and stress can make it even more difficult to ejaculate. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My First Sex Was With A Prostitute, I Did Not Get An Erection It sounds like you two just walked into a room and took your clothes off. Though that might be exciting for some people, many men and women find that spending time in foreplay helps them to feel more aroused. Foreplay can help men to get an erection and it can help women to lubricate or become "wet". Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Have Bladder Prolapse. Can This Be Fixed? It can take around 2 months to heal well enough to begin having vaginal intercourse again. Research suggests that women often see an improvement in their sexual lives, particularly if their prolapse issues were getting in the way of sex before they had surgery. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Have Never Experienced Orgasm. Is Something Wrong With Me? Some women find that they may masturbate for 30 minutes or an hour or longer, quite a few times, before they experience a release of sexual tension in what feels like an orgasm to them. Other women prefer to use a vibrator to help learn to orgasm, as vibrators can often make it easier to learn to orgasm. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: He Ejaculated In My Face. Could I Have An STD In My Eye? When men masturbate, they sometimes accidentally squirt semen into their eye. And men and women who have male sex partners have often been in this situation, too, so it's an issue that many people can sympathize or even empathize with. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Do Certain Fruits Make You Taste Sweet? I am not aware of any scientific research that has been published in peer-reviewed journals that suggest any of these methods actually work to make semen or vaginal fluids taste sweeter or generally more pleasant. That said, I am also not aware of any research that discounts these methods - in other words, they are pretty much untested and unknown. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Tore My Frenulum. Should I Be Concerned? Often, men find that if they keep the cut clean, apply an over the counter antibiotic cream and avoid further irritation from partner sex or masturbation, that it will heal on its own within a week or two. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Had Never Experienced Painful Sex Until Recently As women near menopause, estrogen levels drop and women may be more prone to experience pain or discomfort during sex. As the vagina becomes more dry, women are also prone to vaginal tearing, which can result in small amounts of bleeding during sex. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Am Interested In The Study Of Sex If you're curious about working as a sex researcher, you can approach the study of sex from any number of disciplines including public health, psychology, education, sociology, anthropology, medicine, film studies, history, women's studies, gender studies, telecommunications, biology, or whatever else you can dream of. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: What Is The Purpose Of Female Ejaculation? It's generally acknowledged that some women release a larger amount of fluids during sexual excitement or orgasm. We also know that in most cases, these fluids don't seem to be urine. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Do Not Experience Orgasm When I Ejaculate Some men report having noticed a lack of pleasure or orgasm after they start taking medications, such as certain antidepressants or other medications. Sometimes this side effect of a lack of pleasure or orgasm can persist for a long time even after they stop taking the medication. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Hand Job, Fingering, And Pregnancy Risk If you and your boyfriend are definitely not planning on having intercourse, then your sole form of birth control may be keeping his penis and his semen away from your vagina. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Wife Has A Sore Near Her Anus. Could It Be Herpes? Herpes sores can show up a long time after infection. Some people don't notice their first sore until months or even many years after infection. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Could Natural Supplements Help To Increase My Sexual Desire? The supplements that are currently on the market have not been subject to the sorts of medical and scientific tests that one would have to undergo if they were marketing the substance as a medication. Therefore there is no way to tell if the substance is safe, if it works, or what the side effects are. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: His Erection Goes Away When He Puts On A Condom On one hand, using a condom can help both people to feel more relaxed and confident about sex knowing that they are taking measures to greatly reduce the risk of pregnancy and some sexually transmissible infections, or STIs. On the other hand, using a condom changes sensation for men. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Husband And I Have A Power Struggle When It Comes To Sex Sometimes couples engage in power struggles without talking about it. People may withhold sex from one another as punishment or perhaps they may give in to sex, but act as if they're not enjoying it as a way of getting back at their partner. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Is It Unhealthy To Fantasize About My Ex When I Masturbate? People have different reactions to dealing with masturbating about their ex. Some men and women try to stop thinking about their ex at all costs and may actively try to think of other people while they masturbate, or to focus on others by watching porn or reading erotica, to help them imagine sexual situations that involve other individuals. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Am Scared Of Having Sex Because Of Pregnancy and Bleeding Though not having had intercourse by age 25 is less common these days, some people choose to wait to have sex until they find the right person, relationship or situation. There is nothing wrong with not having had vaginal intercourse by age 25. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Fantastize About My Wife Having Sex With Other Men Some people fantasize about their partner having sex with another person. Such sexual fantasies may involve threesomes or larger numbers of people involved in group sex or orgies. Other times people fantasize about their partner is cheating on them. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Bled During Fingering. Should I Be Concerned? To reduce the risk of vaginal cuts in the future, you may want to use a water-based or silicone-based lubricant, which can help to reduce friction. Also, some women find it more comfortable to "sit" on their partner's finger so that they can maintain control over the pace and roughness of fingering. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Boyfriend Always Has An Erection, Masturbates Constantly Compulsive masturbation is experienced by a minority of men, but for some men masturbation almost seems to take over their life. They may find that masturbation gets in the way of their ability to develop or maintain a satisfying romantic relationship or that it gets in the way of friendships or even getting work done. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Have I Been Desensitized To Sex? Some surveys of parents, teachers and caregivers suggest that the majority of young children touch their own genitals and many also play age-appropriate games with other children, such as playing doctor, I'll show you mine or "mommy and daddy" (or "mommy and mommy" or "daddy and daddy" as the case may be). Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: What Are The Chances Of Contracting An STI From A Sex Worker? Prostitutes who work at legal brothels are required to be regularly tested for infections. If they are found to have Chlamydia, gonorrhea or syphilis, then they have to stay out of work until they have been treated and tested again, and found to be negative for the infection on re-testing. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: What Are The Chances She Is Pregnant? If a man recently ejaculated and then soon after, got aroused, it is theoretically possible that if any sperm were left over in his urethra from his last ejaculate, then the pre-ejaculatory fluids could pick the sperm up and carry them through the urethra. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: How Do Women Experience Multiple Orgasms? We don't fully understand why some women experience multiple orgasms and others do not. In part, it may have to do with expectations about sex and orgasm. After all, even one orgasm is difficult for some women to experience, so some women may be happy with one orgasm and may not even try to have a second orgasm after their first. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Partner Experiences Pain During Penetrative Sex There are many different reasons why a woman may experience chronic genital pain. Some women may have skin sensitivities or allergies that cause the genital skin to become easily irritated in response to chemicals in laundry detergent, bath wash, soap, lubricants, or condoms. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Dating Women But Fantasizing About Men. Straight, Gay, or Bi? Dr. Alfred Kinsey felt that there was fluidity in human sexuality and that more people would be attracted to both sexes if society was more accepting and embracing of the diversity of human sexual attraction, interest and behavior. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Is It Possible To Orgasm By Intense Concentration Alone? Although physical stimulation is a common part of the orgasm picture, it isn't everything. Even the most pleasurable forms of touch don't always lead to orgasm unless a person is feeling psychologically stimulated or aroused, or concentrating on sexual ideas or thoughts, as well. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Roommate Used My Vibrator Without Telling Me One of the health-related problems with sharing sex toys is that it is not known how long certain bacteria or viruses can survive in sex toy materials. That means that sharing sex toys can result in sharing infections. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Boyfriend Has A Tough Time Staying Hard During Sex young men often get erections for no particular reason and sometimes during times when they wish they wouldn't. As they grow older and begin being sexual with a partner, they may have the experience of not always getting erections when they want one, even if they feel sexually excited. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Chafed My Penis When I Was Masturbating Because the genitals are kept in a warm, moist area, under clothing, and can be exposed to urine and fecal matter, they sometimes require special care so that cuts, tears or chafing heal well and the potential for pleasurable sensitivity returns. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Pulling Out During Sex: Does Pre-Cum Pose a Pregnancy Risk? Pre-ejaculatory fluids do not contain any sperm. They are clear fluids that come from small glands inside of a man's body. These pre-ejaculatory fluids are released into a man's urethra when he becomes aroused and they help to lubricate the urethra. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: What Can I Do To Get Pregnant? Men tend to have higher sperm quality when they are of a healthy weight and are non-smokers. Women also tend to have healthier pregnancies and lower risk deliveries when they are of a healthy weight. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Have Never Experienced Orgasm. What Do You Suggest I Do? The clitoris extends backward into the body in two branches that may be stimulated from vaginal sex or other types of stimulation. This knowledge alone may give you different ideas for how to approach your body with ideas for stimulation. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Premature Ejaculation In Sex: Is It Because I Masturbate? Men's bodies make sperm and the fluids that make up semen on an ongoing basis. Sperm only make up a small portion of the volume of semen. Much of a man's seminal fluids come from his prostate gland and other glands called the cowper's glands and seminal vesicles. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Can I Get Pregnant If A Guy Pulls Out Before He Ejaculates? Men cannot reliably squeeze all of their semen out of their penis. Sometimes it trickles out a few moments later. Also, there may be sperm that are further down and then, when he is inside you and gets aroused again, his pre-ejaculatory fluids may sweep up the sperm and carry it outside his body and into your vagina. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: How Legitimate Is Sex Addiction? Although the term "sex addiction" is often used in the media, it is not used as commonly among scientific circles. That's not to say that sex researchers don't encounter people with problems related to sex. In fact, it's quite clear that a small proportion of people experience their sexuality in a way that may feel out of control or addictive. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Could I Get Pregnant From Dry Sex With My Boyfriend? There is not always a clear line between "dry sex" and intercourse. Sometimes couples get very excited during their sex play and they may experiment with getting closer to each other's genitals. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Could Condoms Help Delay My Ejaculation During Sex? Benzocaine works by slightly numbing or desensitizing the skin on a man's penis. By reducing sensation during sex, condoms with benzocaine may help men to last longer by several minutes. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Why Don't I Get Turned On When My Husband Rubs My Clitoris? A woman may become pregnant whether or not she lubricates or has an orgasm during sex. Your level of sexual excitement has nothing to do with your ability to become pregnant - unless you're avoiding sex because it's not exciting. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Why Does My Girlfriend Feel Bad After We Have Sex? The experience of sexual pleasure can also tap into people's brain chemistry in ways that, as scientists, we don't fully understand yet. For example, I have heard, from several people who describe sadness associated with sex for reasons they don't understand. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Is It Normal To Fantasize About Having Sex With Random Women? People can act out romantic sexual fantasies or very explicit no-feelings-involved sexual fantasies. They can be powerful or submissive, have sex with one person or many, or approach a stranger or even a long lost, high school love for sex, massage, making out or to become pregnant. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Young American Women: Only Ones Who Shave Their Pubic Area? It's common for women and men to say that there's something they like about having even just a little bit of pubic hair. Some people find that it feels very sensual to have a little bit of pubic hair to tug on - that it can enhance sensation during masturbation or partner sex. Others just like how it looks. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Masturbate Face-Down. Will This Cause Sexual Problems? Although a face-down style of masturbation that involves rubbing against the bed appears to be less common than a style that involves a man laying on his back or sitting up, that doesn't mean that face-down masturbation will cause sexual problems. ——— Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Do Condoms Cause My Girlfriend To Bleed During Sex? Sex may feel dry and your girlfriend may be more prone to small vaginal tears, which can result in small amounts of bleeding during or after sex. Most women will experience small vaginal cuts or tears at some point in their lives. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Is It Bad To Last Too Long While Masturbating? If you're taking your time and lasting longer to enjoy the sensations, then more power to you! If you find that you are unable to come sooner as much as you try, then expanding your masturbation routine might help your body adapt to different types of stimulation. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Clitoris And Vulva Are Fusing Together. Is This Okay? The glans clitoris sometimes seems to fuse to the clitoral hood. Changes to the structre of the vulva, whether to the clitoris or the vaginal lips, can occur as part of menopause, when estrogen levels decrease, or as a result of a genital skin condition such as one called lichen sclerosus. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Could My Girlfriend Be Pregnant If She Missed A Pill? Plan B - also called the morning after pill - is a highly effective means of birth control when taken within a few days of unprotected sex. If it has been less than 5 days since you two had unprotected sex, you can ask your healthcare provider for more information about this option. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Connection Between Sexual Abuse And The Urge To Pee Before Sex? As it turns out, it is not uncommon for women to feel as though they have to pee in relation to sexual arousal or sexual behavior. The clitoris, vagina and urethra (which connects to the bladder) are so closely connected that some scientists have suggested that we use the term "clitoral complex" to refer to these interconnections. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Why Do My Vaginal Fluids Taste Sour? Each woman's vaginal scent and taste are unique to her. So, although it is common for vaginas to taste or smell a bit yeasty, acidic or like sour milk, a woman's vaginal taste can change throughout her menstrual cycle or in response to her behaviors or her health. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Have Trouble Keeping An Erection With A Condom On Although condoms typically don't contribute to problems getting or keeping an erection, sometimes men find that they do. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Masturbate While I Sleep. Is This Normal? It's unclear how many people act sexually during their sleep but when it does happen, people often don't even know that they masturbate or attempt to be sexual with other people until they either approach someone for sex while sleeping or until they begin sharing a bed with a partner. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Safe To Put Small Round Items Directly Into The Anus? Unlike the vagina, which is only a few inches long and ends at the cervix, the anus leads into the rectum, where objects can get more easily lost. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Is It Normal To Masturbate Two To Three Times Per Day? People tend to masturbate more often when they are feeling highly aroused or sexually excited, whether or not they have a partner or are in a relationship. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: I Think About Women When I Masturbate. Am I A Lesbian? Few things in life are cut and dry and neither is sexual orientation. Some women who identify as heterosexual have explored sexually with other women. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Do Condoms Reduce Vaginal Wetness? As protective as condoms can be, they sometimes make sex feel more dry. Over time, the lubricant may not feel as though it is quite enough. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Is There A Quick Way To Regain An Erection After Orgasm? Men have what's called a refractory period which is the time between one ejaculation and their ability to ejaculate again. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Should You Take a Break Before Having a Second Round of Sex? When men are younger, such as in their teens and twenties, they are often able to get an erection that is firm enough for intercourse even minutes after they have sex. On occasion, they may not even become soft again after they first ejaculate - they may maintain some level of hardness for several minutes or longer and continue having sex. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: How Long Should Sex Last? Can I Learn To Last Longer? Many men feel pressure in regard to their sexual performance with a partner. As a result, one of the more common questions that we get about sex has to do with learning to last longer during sex. With experience and practice, men often find that they can increase their control over the timing of their ejaculation. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: What Can Be Done About Vaginal Pain During Sex? As many as 10-15% of women experience chronic genital pain. In this episode, Dr. Debby answers a question about vaginal pain during sex. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Boredom and Expressing Desire For More Variety In The Bedroom Dr. Debby Herbenick answers a reader's question about how to get her fiance to understand her need for greater variety in how they have sex. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Can I Get My Virginity Back? Dr. Debby Herbenick answers a young female reader's questions about virginity, specifically if it is possible to "get her virginity back" after having had sex. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Sexual Arousal Differences Between Men and Women One of the biggest differences between men's and women's sexual arousal response is that men's erections are visible whereas women's arousal is more hidden. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Chemical Changes And Emotional Intimacy After Sex Some people have described oxytocin as a sort of "bonding hormone" that may influence us to feel more emotional or to feel closer or more connected to others. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Vaginal Tearing During Intercourse, Fingering Many young women and men have questions about having sex for the first time and losing one's virginity. In regard to your question, it is indeed possible to experience vaginal bleeding from either fingering or penile penetration. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Sexual Arousal With Strangers Some men find it very difficult to get or maintain an erection with partners who they do not know very well. Often they find that they cannot "make" themselves have an erection just because they want one. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Aging And Erectile Problems It may be that your refractory period - which is the time between one ejaculation and your ability to have another one - is beginning to lengthen. This is common with age. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: HPV And Genital Warts: Are They Contagious? HPV is extremely common and, although most sexually active women and men have been exposed to HPV, not everyone who has HPV knows that they have it. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Does Masturbation Cause Premature Aging? Fortunately, there is no truth to the rumors that masturbation causes one to get sick, go blind, grow hair on their hands, or age very quickly. It is common for teenagers and adults to masturbate, whether they are male or female, and there is nothing about masturbating that would cause you to look much older than you are. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Breast Obsession Question: My partner is obsessed with my breasts! Though I enjoy the attention, how can I get him to explore other parts of my body? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Wife Is Uninterested In Certain Sexual Activities Many couples have different levels of sexual desire as well as different types of things that they enjoy doing sexually. Sometimes these preferences cannot be changed. Other times, there is room for movement. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Strong Genital Odor And Oral Sex It is a big decision to make oneself physically and emotionally vulnerable to another person - in this case, to let your boyfriend look at, touch, and - yes - even smell and taste your genitals. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Genital Fit vs. Genital Size Although many people joke about the size of penises and vaginas, people rarely talk about genital size in ways that are helpful or informative. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Getting Fitted For A Collar - Sexual Fantasy Or Alarm Bells? Without talking directly to your partner about his idea to get you fitted for a collar, it is difficult to know whether he was making a joke, expressing a sexual desire or fantasy, sincerely making plans to get you a collar and involve you in sexual role plays (such as slave and master role plays) or something else. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Foot Fetishes - Are They Normal? There has been only a little research related to what some call "foot fetishes" and though it is quite clear that people have linked feet into their sex play for centuries, it is unclear what it is that drives some people to experience such intense arousal or eroticism when they see, touch or lick another person's feet. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Open Relationships - Are They Dysfunctional? There is nothing necessarily "wrong" with people for wanting to be in an open relationship just as there is nothing necessarily "wrong" with people for wanting to be in a monogamous relationship. They are simply different relationship preferences, each with their own challenges and advantages. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Trouble Maintaining An Erection The First Time Nearly all men will experience difficulties getting or keeping an erection at some point in their lives. Unfortunately, not everyone knows this and so when erection problems happen to them or their partner, they may worry that they have done something wrong. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Vagina Has Gotten Bigger Since Giving Birth Although not all women notice changes in the way that sex feels after having been pregnant or given birth, some women do. It's not uncommon for us to hear from women who have questions about their vaginal tightness or about partner slippage issues in which the penis keeps slipping out of the vagina during intercourse. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Healing Time for Genital Cuts and Tears Genital and anal cuts and tears usually heal within a few days, though healing time can depend on size and severity as well as how you care for them. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Differences Between HPV and HIV The fact that HPV and HIV sound similar is confusing for many people. They are completely different viruses with important differences between them. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Masturbation Frequency and Common Myths In spite of many sex educators' and doctors' best efforts to educate people about masturbation, it seems that many masturbation myths persist. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Body Type, Exercise and Physical Attraction Many people are attracted to people with certain body types and there is nothing wrong or unusual about being attracted to men who work out. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Orgasm and Desire After Vasectomy When it comes to sex, research suggests that men's sexual desire, satisfaction and erectile function are just as strong after vasectomy as before. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Genital Itching and Burning After Sex Women's genitals are quite sensitive; as a result, it's not uncommon for women to occasionally notice genital itching or burning. Depending on the details of this sexual encounter, you may have experienced vaginal burning for any number of reasons. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Pre-ejaculate and Pregnancy Pre-ejaculate is fluid that comes from a man's Cowper's glands, which are small glands inside a man's body, by his penis. This fluid helps to lubricate a man's urethra. There are no sperm in this fluid, so, unless there were already sperm hanging out in the urethra that were then carried out by the Cowper's glands fluids, it is usually not possible to get pregnant from contact with pre-ejaculate. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Boyfriend Doesn't Ejaculate During Sex Although it is somewhat difficult for women to find it difficult to orgasm during intercourse, most men find that they are usually able to ejaculate and experience orgasm. That said, some men find it quite difficult to ejaculate. While we don't have very good data on the topic, the best research suggests that fewer than 10% of men experience what we sometimes call delayed or inhibited ejaculation. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: My Husband Stopped Sleeping with Me It can feel confusing and frustrating to want to be sexually intimate with one's partner and for that partner to decline invitations to have sex. People stop having sex for many reasons and it is impossible for us to know why your husband stopped having sex with you. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Lambskin Condoms vs. Latex Condoms Lambskin and other natural skin condoms are certainly one alternative to latex condoms. While it is true that some men experience more sensation during sex when using a natural skin condom, this benefit comes with a cost. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Fatigue The Day After Sex Although there have been a few case reports of individuals who feel tired or lethargic after sex or masturbation, I'm not aware of any reports of couples feeling so dramatically tired after sex that they find it difficult to go about their daily routine. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Pain From Using a New Vibrator Vibrators are commonly used by women and men, and they are rarely associated with negative side effects such as discomfort, pain or injury. That said, vaginal sex, anal sex and masturbation - with or without a vibrator - can all result in negative side effects such as genital itching, burning, irritation or tearing. Mostly a person's risk of such side effects depends not only on how they are having sex, but also what their personal health status is like. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Did Masturbation Change the Shape of My Genitals? Many women have questions about their size and shape of their genital parts - and quite a few women have wondered, like you, if their masturbation has played a part. There is no "standard" size of shape to women's labia and neither masturbation nor partner sex are what shape a woman's genital parts; rather, it's her genetics and health that play the biggest role. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: What Does Sex Feel Like? Given the lack of information about sex that is available to many young women and men, many people aren't sure what to expect when it comes to sex - what to do during sex as well as what sex feels like. You're wise to begin seeking out information about sex well before you even have sex so that, by the time you do have sex, your expectations will be fair and reasonable. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Sex Feels Robotic, What Can I Do? I love my girlfriend dearly, but it seems that she doesn't enjoy sex with me too much. When we do it, it feels a little 'robotic'. Any advice? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Multiple Orgasms My girlfriend is amazing. She can have 10-12 orgasms is one hour's worth of sex.? She says it's always been this way for her.? Is there some way to develop this ability?? Or are some people just born lucky? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Erection Problems When Using Condoms My partner loses his erection every time we try to have sex. This has happened 6 times. I've tried putting it on myself and shortening foreplay but neither has worked. He's fine right until the point the condom is put on. He says it's not because of me and that he really wants to have sex with me but for some reason that always happens. What can I do to help him? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Erection Problems When Using Condoms My partner loses his erection every time we try to have sex. This has happened 6 times. I've tried putting it on myself and shortening foreplay but neither has worked. He's fine right until the point the condom is put on. He says it's not because of me and that he really wants to have sex with me but for some reason that always happens. What can I do to help him? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: How Often Do Older Couples Have Sex? My wife and I are in our late 50s.? We were having a friendly discussion about the frequency of love making at our age.? I am up for 3-4 times a week.? My wife thinks this is well above the norm. I say, maybe a bit above average, but who cares.? Where are we on the Bell Curve? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Pain From Sex Partner with Large Penis I am not a virgin. I have had sex three times but that was two years ago and now when I try to the pain is worse than my first time. I know my partner is large but is it possible something else could be wrong? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: How Common is Anal Sex Among Heterosexual Couples? What percentage of heterosexual couples have anal sex? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Sex Dreams and Marital Infidelity My wife cannot come unless she stimulates herself. She has had dreams of lesbian sex and sex with multiple men and strange men. Am I losing her? Is my wife secretly longing for sex outside of marriage? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Talking About Virginity Is it socially acceptable for me to talk to other people about the fact that I'm a virgin? Or is that awkward? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Birth Control Pill Effectiveness: How Long Does it Take? When I first started taking the birth control pill last year, it was just to make my period regular - I wasn't having sex. Now I am thinking about having sex, but I'm not sure when it's safe to do so. Can I have sex at any time without getting pregnant as long as I take the pill? Or do I have to wait a while first? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: HIV Testing: How Soon is Too Soon? How long after possible exposure to HIV should one wait before being tested? I had unprotected sex and then got tested 5 weeks later. It came back negative. Was that too soon? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Aging and Sexual Desire My wife and I have been married for 20 years and have three children - two currently in college.? My wife is no longer interested in sex - not just intercourse - but also my showing affection like kissing her lips, or kissing her breasts.? Recently she told me that she doesn't feel anything during vaginal intercourse and doesn't want to have any more sex.? What can we do? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Penis Size and Pregnancy Does penis size matter in terms of getting a woman pregnant? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: The Morning After Pill and Frequent Emergency Contraception Use I've been having sex with my boyfriend for a little over a month. Already I have had to take the morning after pill twice after unprotected sex. Then, today, we determined I should take it again. The previous times I have taken it, it caused a few days to a week of bleeding. Would that be considered my period? If so, can I still get pregnant during those times or should I be okay if we have sex then? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Pregnancy Planning and Deception My husband and I use condoms for protection and recently we had a scare when a condom broke. I ended up not being pregnant. At first he said he was disappointed that I wasn't pregnant, then said he was relieved since money is tight. I then did something that I can't even explain to myself. The next time we had sex, I emptied one of the condoms inside me when my husband was out of the room. Is it possible that I can get pregnant this way? I know that I shouldn't have done this but I would lo ... Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Masturbation Guilt and Health Problems I'm 25 years old and I don't have sex often, but I have masturbated every day for about two years now and I feel so guilty about it. I'm scared, too, because I've heard that masturbation can cause health problems or physical damage. Is that true? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Female Ejaculation - How Common Is it? My former girlfriend experienced female ejaculation two times during our three year relationship - once during oral sex and another time during intercourse. I always thought this was something a woman either displays all the time or not at all. Is it normal to be so infrequent? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Pimple on Penis, Could it be Herpes? I had unprotected sex about a month ago. Then this week, I noticed what looked like a pimple on the shaft of my penis. It popped on its own and had pimple ooze come out of it, like a regular pimple, and now it is almost gone. This made me scared that maybe it was herpes instead of a pimple. Could this be possible? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Reducing Pain During First Time Sex Soon I am going to have sex for the first time and I have heard that it hurts for women, which scares me. What can you suggest for it to not hurt me? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Q&A: Adult Wet Dreams - When Will They Stop? I'm 25 and still have the occasional wet dream.? They are usually quite vivid and wake me out of my sleep. My fiancee hasn't moved in yet, but we usually have sex at least once a week.? So I wouldn't say that I'm sexually frustrated; at least not any more than the average 20 something male.? Will these wet dreams ever stop? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Do wet dreams ever stop as you get older? I'm 25 and still have the occasional wet dream.? They are usually quite vivid and wake me out of my sleep. My fiancee hasn't moved in yet, but we usually have sex at least once a week.? So I wouldn't say that I'm sexually frustrated; at least not any more than the average 20 something male.? Will these wet dreams ever stop?? When? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Am I straight, bi, or gay? I am a 19 year old male. I am mostly attracted to females physically and a little bit emotionally. However, I have a strong attraction to males sexually - but not emotionally. I am so confused, I don't know whether I'm straight, Bi, or gay. Please help me. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Can a woman get pregnant from having sex with another woman? Can a woman get pregnant from having sex with another woman? I was sexual with one of my girlfriends and I am worried that could happen to me. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website When I had sex for the first time I didn't ejaculate. Should I be worried? I'm 18 and recently had sex for the first time. My girlfriend and I have now done it five times in the past month and I haven't ejaculated any of the times. Is this something to be worried about? I'm still new, and thought maybe it just takes time. I still enjoy it, so it's okay, but I'm just curious about what you think. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website My girlfriend can't feel anything when we're having intercourse. Why might this happen? My girlfriend says that she can't feel anything when I'm in her. I never had this problem with women before, and am pretty sure it's not a size issue as I'm at least average size. She says this is a serious sexual problem and we need a solution. What are the reasons why a woman wouldn't feel anything during sex? We get along otherwise and I'd like to fix this if we can. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website I found porn on my boyfriend's computer. Is this just a guy thing or should I be worried? Awhile back I found porn videos on my boyfriend's computer. Ever since, I have felt worthless, sad and like I can't trust him. He promised he wouldn't watch anymore but twice I have looked and found them again. My boyfriend says he doesn't want to upset me, but that it's just a guy thing - is it? Or am I not enough for him? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website My partner has a small penis and I worry that my vagina will be too loose for him. For years I was with a man who had a very large penis. We broke up and now I have met a man who does not have as big of a penis. Although we haven't had sex yet I feel like that when we do my vaginal size will be much looser to him. Is that true? Will my vagina be stretched out from my ex? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website I have genital warts, can I pass them on to women I have sex with? Can I get cancer from HPV? I recently learned that I have genital warts on my penis. How should I get treated for these? Can I pass them on to women I have sex with? And is it true that people who have HPV warts, like me, can get cancer from the HPV? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website I've been on birth control for the past year. Can I have unprotected sex without getting pregnant? I have been on the birth control pill for the past year. Is it safe to have unprotected sex without getting pregnant? Or could I still get pregnant? My boyfriend and I are both STI-free and we'd like to try sex without a condom. Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website I've only had sex with men, though I have fantasies about women. Am I bisexual or a lesbian? I have only had sexual experiences with men, although I mostly fantasize about sex with women. I have strong feelings for men, and enjoy physical intimacy with men, but why do most of my fantasies about sex involve women? Am I bisexual or lesbian? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website After My Second Time Having Sex, I Bled. Does This Mean I Won't Get Pregnant? Question: I had sex last night for the second time, and this morning, there was blood on my sheets. I was confused because the first time I had sex I bled, and I thought that meant my hymen had broken and that I wouldn't bleed anymore. Also, we were both drunk so we didn't use a condom, but he said I won't get pregnant since I bled. Can you help me? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Could I Get Pregnant Even If My Boyfriend Ejaculates Before Inserting His Penis Into My Vagina? Question: My boyfriend and I were petting — he ejaculated and then wiped himself off. After about 5 minutes, he inserted the head of his penis into my vagina. Can I get pregnant because of that? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website After Sex, My Vagina Has Been Hurting and Sometimes It Burns. Should I Be Worried? Question: Recently, after having sex with my boyfriend, my vagina has been hurting and sometimes it burns. Should I be worried? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website My Clitoris is Constantly Dry. What's Going On? Question: My clitoris is constantly dry and sometimes I can see some white discharge on my underwear. It has this bread-like smell to it. My vagina is also not as moisturized as it used to be, and during intercourse it takes time for the juices to start flowing. What could be going on? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Is Intensely Passionate Sex a Sign of a Healthy Relationship or Just a Strong Libido? Question: My sex partner and I have really good sexual chemistry together, but we're complete opposites when we're not having sex. Is intensely passionate sex a sign of a healthy relationship or just a strong libido? Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website Could My Frenulum Tear if My Foreskin is Pulled Too Far Back? Question: During sex, my partner usually masturbates me. 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